{"id":236,"date":"2020-04-23T19:15:41","date_gmt":"2020-04-23T12:15:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/giaotieptracan.wordpress.com\/?p=236"},"modified":"2020-04-23T19:15:41","modified_gmt":"2020-04-23T12:15:41","slug":"dieu-dang-buon-khi-chung-ta-tro-nen-than-thiet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/2020\/04\/23\/dieu-dang-buon-khi-chung-ta-tro-nen-than-thiet\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng bu\u1ed3n khi ch\u00fang ta tr\u1edf n\u00ean th\u00e2n thi\u1ebft"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Th\u01b0\u1edf c\u00f2n t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u nhau, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u1eafng nghe nhau trong nhi\u1ec1u gi\u1edd v\u00e0  c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y sao ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia qu\u00e1 th\u00fa v\u1ecb v\u00e0 m\u1edbi m\u1ebb. D\u1ea7n d\u1ea7n, th\u00e2n nhau, r\u1ed3i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u00e0nh gia \u0111\u00ecnh, th\u00ec x\u1ea3y ra nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng bu\u1ed3n:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Ch\u00fang ta k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3i t\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u m\u00ecnh, bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00ecnh bi\u1ebft, th\u1ea5y \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00ecnh th\u1ea5y m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n m\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i g\u00ec v\u1edbi h\u1ecd.<\/li><li>Ch\u00fang ta ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh &#8220;bi\u1ebft tu\u1ed1t&#8221; v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia r\u1ed3i n\u00ean kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n nghe h\u1ecd nh\u01b0 ng\u00e0y x\u01b0a n\u1eefa. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia n\u00f3i n\u1eefa c\u00e2u th\u00f4i th\u00ec ta s\u1ebd t\u1ef1 \u0111i\u1ec1n v\u00e0o n\u1eefa c\u00e2u c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i. Th\u1eddi gian l\u1eafng nghe \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chuy\u1ec3n th\u00e0nh l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c nh\u00e0, c\u01a1m n\u01b0\u1edbc, gi\u1eb7t gi\u0169, con c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">2 tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng tr\u00ean thu\u1ed9c hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u01a1ng thi\u00ean ki\u1ebfn giao ti\u1ebfp g\u1ea7n g\u0169i (closeness-communication bias), v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng h\u00f3a ra ch\u00fang ta hi\u1ec3u v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh (k\u1ec3 c\u1ea3 b\u1ea1n th\u00e2n) c\u00f2n \u00edt h\u01a1n ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1 v\u00ec ta kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u1eafng nghe h\u1ecd n\u1eefa, ch\u00fang ta th\u1eadm ch\u00ed kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ec3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh l\u1eafng nghe m\u00ecnh v\u00ec gi\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng nhi\u00ean ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec3u. Ch\u00fang ta t\u1ef1 coi m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 trung t\u00e2m m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch v\u00f4 th\u1ee9c. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch t\u1ea1o sao nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n v\u1edbi nhau l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi nhau n\u1eefa ho\u1eb7c gi\u1eef b\u00ed m\u1eadt chuy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Giao ti\u1ebfp hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3 \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi ng\u01b0\u1eddi giao ti\u1ebfp nh\u1eadn ra \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00e1c m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00fac n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u0169ng r\u00f5 \u00fd h\u1ecd l\u00e0 g\u00ec. L\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u1ea7n th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c v\u1ec1 tinh th\u1ea7n. C\u1ee5 th\u1ec3, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>H\u00e3y \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c giao ti\u1ebfp v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 t\u00f2 m\u00f2 v\u00e0 t\u00e2m tr\u00ed r\u1ed9ng m\u1edf<\/li><li>\u00dd th\u1ee9c xem ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng gi\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ecbnh v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia kh\u00f4ng? C\u00f3 mong \u0111\u1ee3i r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng nhi\u00ean ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec3u m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng? N\u1ebfu c\u00f3, nh\u1eafc nh\u1edb m\u00ecnh v\u1ec1 s\u1ef1 t\u00f2 m\u00f2 v\u00e0 t\u00e2m tr\u00ed r\u1ed9ng m\u1edf.<\/li><li>L\u1eafng nghe trong y\u00ean l\u1eb7ng, kh\u00f4ng ng\u1eaft l\u1eddi tr\u1eeb khi nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea3m b\u1ea3o m\u00ecnh hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u00fang ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia<\/li><li>X\u00e1c nh\u1eadn l\u1ea1i n\u1ed9i dung l\u1eafng nghe \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u00fang \u00fd \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng (tr\u00e1nh gi\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ecbnh &#8220;bi\u1ebft tu\u1ed1t&#8221;)<\/li><li>Th\u1ea5u c\u1ea3m nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00e0 nhu c\u1ea7u m\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111ang c\u00f3 th\u00f4ng qua c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">C\u00e1c b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ecdc th\u00eam v\u1ec1 n\u1ed9i dung &#8220;L\u1eafng nghe th\u1ea5u c\u1ea3m&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tham kh\u1ea3o:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Kate, Murphy (2020) Why We Listen Better To Strangers Than Family at: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.awakin.org\/read\/view.php?tid=2415\">https:\/\/www.awakin.org\/read\/view.php?tid=2415<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Kenneth Savitsky, Boaz Keysar, Nicholas Epley, Travis Carter, Ashley Swanson (2011) The closeness-communication bias: Increased egocentrism among friends versus strangers, Journal of Experimental Social Psychology<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Six words communication (2016) The Dangers of Closeness-Communication Bias at: <a href=\"https:\/\/sixwordscommunication.com\/2016\/03\/01\/the-dangers-of-closeness-communication-bias\/\">https:\/\/sixwordscommunication.com\/2016\/03\/01\/the-dangers-of-closeness-communication-bias\/<\/a><\/li><li>Photo by&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/@roller1?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText\">kyle smith<\/a>&nbsp;on&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/s\/photos\/ear?utm_source=unsplash&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_content=creditCopyText\">Unsplash<\/a> &#8211; <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/@roller1?utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=photographer-credit&amp;utm_content=creditBadge\" target=\"_blank\">unsplash-logo kyle smith<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u0110\u1ec3 nu\u00f4i d\u01b0\u1ee1ng t\u00ecnh th\u00e2n<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":242,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13,7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-236","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lang-nghe","category-thau-cam-voi-nguoi-khac"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/236","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=236"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/236\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=236"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=236"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=236"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}