{"id":570,"date":"2020-08-11T12:57:18","date_gmt":"2020-08-11T05:57:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/giaotieptracan.wordpress.com\/?p=570"},"modified":"2026-04-26T10:33:21","modified_gmt":"2026-04-26T10:33:21","slug":"thau-cam-tu-than","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/2020\/08\/11\/thau-cam-tu-than\/","title":{"rendered":"Th\u1ea5u c\u1ea3m t\u1ef1 th\u00e2n"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ghi l\u1ea1i b\u1edfi b\u1ea1n Tr\u01b0\u01a1ng Ho\u00e0ng Ph\u1ee5ng trong v\u00f2ng tr\u00f2n th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh ng\u00e0y 08.08.2020<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tham kh\u1ea3o ch\u01b0\u01a1ng 9 s\u00e1ch: Lucy Leu (2010) Nonviolent Communication Companion Workbook<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Ghi nh\u1edb s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n<br \/>\u1ee8ng d\u1ee5ng quan tr\u1ecdng nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a giao ti\u1ebfp tr\u1eafc \u1ea9n c\u00f3 l\u1ebd l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00e2ng cao s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5u c\u1ea3m \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh. V\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1eafc \u1ea9n v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh t\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1, ta c\u1ea7n lu\u00f4n nh\u1edb r\u1eb1ng <strong>con ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y (m\u00ecnh) l\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t v\u00e0 c\u00f3 khi kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o<\/strong><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Mindfulness: <strong>quan s\u00e1t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng, v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 m\u00ecnh<\/strong><br \/>K\u1ebft n\u1ed1i v\u1edbi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh b\u1eb1ng l\u1eafng nghe b\u00ean trong, l\u1eabn quan s\u00e1t c\u00e1c d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u, c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 v\u00ec c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 khi bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi m\u00ecnh, trong t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng xao \u0111\u1ed9ng, k\u1ecbp g\u1ecdi t\u00ean r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 (nh\u1eefng) c\u1ea3m x\u00fac g\u00ec. V\u00ed d\u1ee5 nh\u01b0 tay run, h\u01a1i th\u1edf g\u1ea5p, tim \u0111\u1eadp nhanh, gi\u1ecdng to h\u01a1n\/nh\u1ecf h\u01a1n\/cao h\u01a1n\/th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng, kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng di\u1ec5n \u0111\u1ea1t gi\u1ea3m&#8230;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Luy\u1ec7n t\u1eadp giao ti\u1ebfp tr\u1eafc \u1ea9n v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh: nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng l\u00fac m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o, chuy\u1ec7n g\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra, m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 ch\u00ea tr\u00e1ch hay th\u00fac \u00e9p b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o, khi \u0111\u00f3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 g\u00ec, <strong>\u0111\u1eb1ng sau nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi t\u1ef1 ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u g\u00ec c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh ch\u01b0a \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vi\u1ec7c g\u1ecdi t\u00ean ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3m x\u00fac hay nhu c\u1ea7u s\u00e2u b\u00ean trong c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 g\u00ec c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c. N\u00ean c\u1ea7n s\u1ef1 luy\u1ec7n t\u1eadp, l\u01b0u \u00fd c\u1ee7a b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 trao \u0111\u1ed5i th\u00eam.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">T\u00f4i minh h\u1ecda th\u00eam b\u1eb1ng 1 v\u00ed d\u1ee5 d\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>T\u00f4i c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t nh\u00f3m b\u1ea1n h\u1ecdc chung m\u1ed9t kh\u00f3a h\u1ecdc online. Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i b\u00e0n nhau ch\u1ec9 mua d\u01b0\u1edbi m\u1ed9t account th\u00f4i \u0111\u1ec3 ti\u1ebft ki\u1ec7m ti\u1ec1n. B\u1ea1n n\u00e0o mu\u1ed1n l\u1ea5y ch\u1ee9ng nh\u1eadn s\u1ebd tr\u1ea3 nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n c\u00e1c th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t \u00edt l\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Ch\u00fang t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ea1n A, ng\u01b0\u1eddi mu\u1ed1n l\u1ea5y ch\u1ee9ng nh\u1eadn, \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t ph\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n \u1ea5y tr\u01b0\u1edbc.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>B\u1ea1n A \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd g\u00f3p 10 \u0111\u1ed3ng, ph\u1ea7n c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i chia cho c\u00e1c th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean. M\u1ed7i th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean s\u1ebd tr\u1ea3 kho\u1ea3ng 7 \u0111\u1ed3ng.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Sau khi b\u1ea1n A nh\u1eafn tin, b\u1ea1n B &amp; C \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t tr\u00ean. T\u00f4i nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y <strong>m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng<\/strong>, t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n tr\u1ea3 6 \u0111\u1ed3ng. \u0110\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi, t\u00f4i quan s\u00e1t m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng <strong>l\u1eddi t\u1ef1 ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t<\/strong> sau:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>S\u1ed1 ti\u1ec1n ch\u00eanh l\u1ec7ch kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u, m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eebng x\u00e9t n\u00e9t d\u1eef v\u1eady. C\u00e1c th\u00e0nh vi\u00ean kh\u00e1c \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd r\u1ed3i, m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t kh\u00e1c \u0111i th\u00ec th\u00eam r\u00e1ch vi\u1ec7c.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>N\u1ebfu t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd ngay, t\u00f4i bi\u1ebft m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i. N\u1ebfu t\u00f4i t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i ngay, t\u00f4i s\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh l\u00e0m b\u1ea1n bu\u1ed3n. T\u00f4i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh n\u00f3i b\u1ea1n cho t\u00f4i v\u00e0i ng\u00e0y, t\u00f4i c\u1ea7n k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 xem \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111ang di\u1ec5n ra b\u00ean trong t\u00f4i. Trong v\u00e0i ng\u00e0y \u0111\u00f3, t\u00f4i v\u1eabn \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi t\u1ef1 ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t m\u00ecnh \u00edch k\u1ef7 v\u00e0 r\u1eafm r\u1ed1i, cho t\u1edbi l\u00fac t\u00f4i nh\u1ea9m &#8220;n\u1ebfu m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 th\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u00ec c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u00e0&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Sau v\u00e0i ng\u00e0y, t\u00f4i nh\u1eafn cho c\u1ea3 nh\u00f3m r\u1eb1ng:<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-paragraph\"><em>&#8220;T\u1edb ngh\u0129 b\u1ea1n A c\u00f3 l\u1ee3i th\u1ebf h\u01a1n v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t ch\u1ee9ng nh\u1eadn v\u00e0 ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn t\u00e0i li\u1ec7u. T\u1edb s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng h\u01a1n \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u1ea3 6 \u0111\u1ed3ng. Tuy nhi\u00ean, vi\u1ec7c n\u00e0y c\u00f2n t\u00f9y thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng v\u00e0 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n A. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n A kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd th\u00ec t\u1edb v\u1eabn tr\u1ea3 7 \u0111\u1ed3ng v\u00ec t\u1edb \u0111\u00e3 <strong>b\u00e0y t\u1ecf<\/strong> xong v\u00e0 <strong>mu\u1ed1n h\u1ecdc<\/strong>. T\u1edb b\u00e0y t\u1ecf cho ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i gi\u00fap c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n kh\u00e1c, c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3 s\u1ed1 ti\u1ec1n m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>B\u1ea1n A nh\u1eafn tin c\u00e1m \u01a1n s\u1ef1 b\u00e0y t\u1ecf th\u1eb3ng th\u1eafn v\u00e0 ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i. B\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ec1 ngh\u1ecb c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>\u1ede \u0111\u00e2y, t\u00f4i n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 nhu c\u1ea7u B\u00e0y T\u1ecf. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec3m y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i trong nhi\u1ec1u n\u0103m. <strong>N\u1ebfu t\u00f4i ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c ng\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, t\u00f4i s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ec1 xu\u1ea5t (nhu c\u1ea7u b\u00e0y t\u1ecf kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng v\u00e0 t\u00f4i s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng vui).<\/strong> <strong>N\u1ebfu t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e1p tr\u1ea3 ngay l\u00fac c\u1ea3m x\u00fac r\u1ea5t m\u1ea1nh, s\u1ef1 b\u00e0y t\u1ecf c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ebd th\u00f4 v\u00e0 g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng, sau \u0111\u00f3 t\u00f4i s\u1ebd h\u1ed1i h\u1eadn v\u00e0 l\u1ea7n sau th\u00ec d\u1eb9p lu\u00f4n c\u00e1i chuy\u1ec7n b\u00e0y t\u1ecf c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/strong> V\u00ec v\u1eady, t\u00f4i c\u1ea7n th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ec3 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i, ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n nhu c\u1ea7u n\u00e0y trong s\u1ef1 \u00fd th\u1ee9c.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>V\u00e0i ng\u00e0y, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 kho\u1ea3ng th\u1eddi gian t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1ea3i qua \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 k\u1ebft n\u1ed1i v\u1edbi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, s\u1ef1 t\u1ef1 ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t, \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. R\u1ed3i t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3, m\u1edbi nh\u1eadn r\u00f5 nhu c\u1ea7u m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng r\u1ed3i b\u00e0y t\u1ecf n\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng v\u00e0 h\u00e0i h\u00f2a nh\u1ea5t.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ch\u00fac b\u1ea1n t\u1eebng b\u01b0\u1edbc th\u1ea5u c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 tr\u1eafc \u1ea9n v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>H\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng nhu c\u1ea7u c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng b\u00ean d\u01b0\u1edbi nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi t\u1ef1 ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch v\u00e0 ph\u00e1n x\u00e9t<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":2203,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[12,21,32,33],"class_list":["post-570","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-thau-cam-tu-than","tag-compassionate-communication","tag-giao-tiep-trac-an","tag-self-compassion","tag-self-empathy"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/570","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=570"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/570\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3319,"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/570\/revisions\/3319"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2203"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=570"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=570"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.giaotieptracan.com\/vi\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=570"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}